It's Just Like Antimatter

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sirfrogsworth

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I graduated high school in 99.

There was a student at our school named Wayne.

Wayne was gay. It was obvious. He was unable to stay in the closet even if he wanted to. To make matters worse, he was also Black. From a bullying standpoint, that was not a great combo. Both Black and white students made fun of him relentlessly. He was ostracized from the only community that may have given him protection. Only us theater kids stuck up for him, but not to significant effect.

Wayne was bullied so much that at one point he finally snapped and attacked his bullies with a lunch tray. I was actually seated in perfect line of sight and just sat there chewing my soggy fries in stunned silence. It didn't even seem real as I was witnessing it. The image of him wailing on his main bully as the food on his tray flew off is permanently logged into my long term memory.

The bully he attacked had blood all over his face and went straight to the nurse. Other than superficial cuts, he was not injured.

Before the attack, Wayne went to teachers for help.
He went to guidance counselors for help.
He went to the principals for help.

He did all of the things you were supposed to do. No one helped him. They wagged a finger at the bullies and warned them to stop.

Wayne's lunch tray melee was the only thing that worked. His bullies stayed far away from him. But a week later Wayne was expelled and the bullies were given no punishment.

So... no.

No one in my school talked about being trans.

Because the only way to survive being openly queer was to bash people with a lunch tray.

andthentheywilleatthestars
homunculus-argument

You know what? Dating is a numbers game. Not being rude, being well-groomed and dressed up nicely and being considerate of people is one thing, but you're just wasting your time if you go on dates trying to act normal. What you should be doing is going on 1000 dates with different people, put all your weird shit on display, and then pick the one who isn't repulsed by it. If they're repulsed by what you're into from the start, you're never going to be able to truly be comfortably yourself around them.

Don't stress about being 'too weird'. If you're genuinely just being yourself, that's just the limit of how much Your Particular Sort Of Weird Shit someone that's going to be a potential life partner will just need to tolerate, or even embrace. That might sound like some dumbass toxic entitled dramaqueen shit but trust me: You're absolutely 100% better off alone than with someone who's uncomfortable with the way you are when you're comfortable. And so are they. Like yeah, relationships require work and compromises and meeting someone halfway, but you shouldn't have to compromise who you are in order to be with someone.

Your personality is there to keep the kind of people that you don't want in your house, out of your house. Go out with seven different girls and send all of them some weird fucking meme of two humanoid ghouls eating a dead deer with some text like "this could be us but you won't go to the carcass with me :(" and pick the one who still wants to talk with you after that. And perhaps even inquires whether there actually is a deer carcass. Does it still have all the teeth. Because if there's actually a carcass and it still has all the teeth, she wants them. She has plans that need deer teeth.

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Maybe the deer teeth are for the wedding dress.

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Photo by CT on Flickr. "It's a Crow wedding dress covered in elk teeth -- I think that the eye teeth of the elk are used, so there are not too many in any one animal. The groom gives them to his bride to make her dress, and their number shows his prowess as a hunter."

homunculus-argument

Okay I love how this changes the whole thing into a whole new context. "The woman I like isn't sure if I like her. I am constructing her wedding dress." is 100% something I could see lesbians being up to.

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mobydyke

being an adult is just dragging urself kicking and screaming to things that you will enjoy and that will be good for you

mobydyke

clenching my teeth and muttering under my breath "you'll be happy you did it you'll be happy you did it you'll be happy you did it" as I physically force myself out the door to go Do Things

mobydyke

being very firm with myself every time I think about bailing and saying "no. you committed to this. it will improve your quality of life. you will enjoy it. now put on your big boy pants and go."